And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a
helper comparable to him…and the Lord God…took one of [Adam’s] ribs…and…made [it] into a woman (Adam’s wife)…’ (Genesis 2:18,22)
Yesterday I talked about Drea Kelly, and how she was R. Kelly’s protection. If you haven’t read the post, I suggest you read it. But in it, I mentioned that she was his helpmeet (helper) which in Hebrew means ‘to aid, surround and protect’. I pointed out that she was created for R. Kelly and that she was HIS helper. She was the woman God created that was ‘comparable to him.’ How could I be so sure? I’m not. But I told you about her detailing the landmarks in his career that she attributed to their marriage and how when they were doing well, his career flourished. What she was essentially saying was that she was his inspiration and because of it, he went on to write chart-topping, award-winning songs. But because of his sexual immorality, along with his verbal and physical abuse, they divorced. And when they did, he lost not only his inspiration, but his help and protection.
“Drea Kelly was created for R. Kelly. She is his helpmeet. She is the woman God created that was comparable to him.
The Reality of Being a Wife
When I thought about that further, I saw something that most don’t want to see. In fact, this post is for the spiritually mature only. So if after reading what I’m about write, you find yourself upset, just know you have some growing up to do. But getting back to what I saw - if Drea is his helpmeet and the woman God created for him, then SHE WILL FOREVER BE. That means that even though they’re divorced, in God’s eyes, she’s still his helpmeet.
“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)
And though God doesn’t hold her responsible for his sexual immorality, if God created her to be his helpmeet, then right now – TODAY - she still is. But this is where you’re going to have to put your grown folk lenses on. As I watched the second part of his interview with Gayle King, I noticed that he blames her for what’s happening to him. And though nothing could be farther from the truth, in his mind, he sees her as the problem. She’s not. Yet, he thinks she had something to do with his downfall. He knows that when she left, his life began to fall apart. But instead of taking full responsibility for his actions, he tells himself that she’s to blame for his demise. The thing about it is that one moment, he's loudly exclaiming that ‘…his ex-wife is destroying [his] name.’ But in the same breath, he's calmly recalling the day he proposed. The part that got me was that after admitting he still loved her, he went back into his tirade.
A Question for Mature Christians
Now I know we don’t want to think about this, and this is why I said this post is for the spiritually mature, but what if Drea took him back? Because remember, she is HIS HELPMEET which means she’s the one God created to ‘protect, surround, and aid’ him…even now. Would we, the public, call her crazy for taking her vows seriously? I mean this would definitely qualify for the worse, right? Now, I’m not saying that she should or that God is requiring that she does, but let's say she didn't remarry him. But what if she did what Jesus does for us and forgave him for all his ugly, unforgivable mess and thugged it out with him through this scandal? Would we criticize her praying for, not speaking harshly about, and being there for him - as his friend? Just something for the spiritually mature to consider and for us single women to think about before we say ‘I do’. #shareyourthoughts
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