• Staci Sweet

Unforgiveness Cleverly Disguised

‘’And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.’ Mark 11:25,26

REMIXED POST: What I’ve learned about forgiveness is that you can forgive the persons’ behavior; their performance, actions, and conduct but there’s much more to it. You see, though I’d forgiven a certain person to the point I could be around them, converse, and even pray for them fervently; there was still some expectancy. I’d forgiven, but I still expected them to acknowledge their failure. And until they did, I expected them to compensate me for not acknowledging that failure. But this is the thing. I wasn’t expecting monetary compensation per se, I just felt as if they SHOULD do what I wanted them to as an informal acknowledgment of their failure. Because by doing so they were informally acknowledging what they had yet to acknowledge.

That level of expectancy - what I felt like they SHOULD do, was cleverly disguised and it wasn’t until that person told me no ;that God identified that expectation as unforgiveness. That expectation caused me to look to them to meet my needs and not to God.

Forgiveness is more than forgiving someone for their actions, but letting go. Releasing them from any and all debt, any and all expectation – monetary or otherwise. When a person is forgiven or found not guilty of a crime, they're no longer charged with the offense. All charges have been forgiven. The same is true with forgiveness. Though I'd found them no longer guilty; they still had charges pending - by way of my expectations. So I asked the Lord what I should do. He revealed to me to forgive them by faith and to ask Him to help me to forgive – to truly forgive and release them from all my expectations.

Release those people in your lives who have hurt you spiritually, emotionally, physically, and financially. Yes, I know you may have said the words ‘you forgive’ but check your heart and see if there is a level of expectation that you still may have.

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